They can use it for so many reasons mainly mental. I’ve heard of addicts relapsing because of pain with teeth or muscles etc, it’s unusual he says he used it more because of this and got addicted. He may of been addicted for some time but hasn’t been honest with you and could be using that as an excuse sorry but the lengths they will go to to lie and cover up their use shows no bounds. My ex would have it right under he’s nose and still say it wasn’t there. I have 4 children also and what I would say is to firstly encourage him to get help you can’t force it. If it’s left it will get worse my partner goes on like we don’t exist now and I had our last child 10 weeks ago our first daughter too even she wasn’t enough for him to stop nothing is unfortunately unless they want to it’s so sad it’s destroyed our family. The longer they are addicted it changes their personalities too to a point where they will do things that they would never of done before like neglecting their children bills jobs and family all to keep their addiction going. I would see what he says about help if he will go to ca meetings or he’s gp and go from there I wish I hadn’t helped my ex or stayed around it’s been nearly a year since it became obvious my ex was addicted and I wish I cut ties sooner as in the end I had to my mental health got so bad as even when he was home and not using I was worried about when he would next relapse it’s not a healthy way to live for either involved but if they can’t or won’t change you have to detach yourself for your sanity only way it’s hard but each day it gets easier & sadness turns to bitterness and you won’t want them in your life anymore sad but true.
