Hi Liberty,
sorry for the slow response,
well I think certainly the relationship was very one sided, and everything rested on me to hold it together and show love etc.
anyway the latest and potentially final piece of the story is she is now posting pics on facebook of her with some new guy, so I guess she has moved on from not wanting to hurt me to actively trying to hurt me now.
as this act is clearly done for no other purpose than to try and hurt me and/or get a reaction.
perhaps she thought this would make me come running but instead it has utterly repulsed me.
I haven’t even seen this myself as I never go on facebook, but she has my mum and sisters, and various friends and people I work with on her friends list, so she knows it will get back to me.
Its hilarious to be honest as she clearly wont be in love with this guy, and it is all just her protesting to much trying to make a statement and pretend her life is so great.
but all she has done is proved me right, I always said if we ever split up she would behave like this to try and pretend she is fine and I never meant anything, and here she is doing exactly what I always said she would.
as tempting as it is to publicly react I just can’t be bothered and will not lower myself to petty spitefulness.
I have been on a few dates myself in fact, so I am starting to believe that there could be someone out there that would actually appreciate me and not treat me so disgustingly as she has/still is.
and I’m quite sure she is aware of this and that is the motive behind her getting with the first guy to come along to try and publicly appear to have moved on first and therefore “win” ha.
only I’ll be the one winning when I find someone that I actually want to be with that respects me and wants to build a good life together, whilst she can “win” by pretending shes happy with someone she doesn’t even fancy.
the lengths she will go to to spite herself really knows no limit.
oh and I spoke to her next door neighbor yesterday who I always got on well with and found out the small version of the truth she had told him for our splitting,
surprisingly she had admitted that it was because I didn’t like her doing coke, i laughed and said yeh it was a bit more than just a bit of coke.
also, I have been reading a book called “the new primal scream” which I would highly recommend anyone on here to read as it is very insightful on repression, and how this is probably largely what comes first, and later the repressed person turns to drugs to keep repressing etc.
this book has helped me understand a lot, annoyingly it makes the addict the victim though so you start feeling sorry for them again despite how awful they behave.