Hi redfox I’m responding as a mum of a coke addict and completely resonate with everything you’ve said. My daughter in law was strong enough to ask him to leave (he came to us but I wish I’d let him go on the streets tbh). What he put her through and us now was disgusting. He more or less bankrupted them with his gambling, drinking and coke use. His personality has changed, he was his dad’s mate but he has turned him into a wreck. My daughter in law lost weight, hair and became so anxious that she had to think of herself and our grandson and I thank God she did. He spent all their money so she couldn’t get formula for the baby or pay the mortgage. He got her into so much debt and she’d never had a credit card before. He’s verbally abused, disrespected, lied, conned and controlled us to the extent that we are adamant if he uses again we will be cutting all ties with him. (He last used on Saturday but I believe because of the amount of money he’s had off us he hasn’t stopped using in the last 3 years since his break up.) As a mum it is heartbreaking to see your precious boy grow up to become this vile person. We are average, working class people who have had no experience of any type of drug use or addiction before our son became a heavy gambler and coke user. We are devastated and beat as you can imagine so I salute you for putting yourself and your family’s well being first and I will advise any wife, girlfriend, partner to run for the hills. They have to recover themselves and we have found to our cost that no amount of enabling will change them x
