Hi so sorry to hear of your sons addiction, I have found this whole situation with my partner devastating. I can’t imagine the pain if it were my son, sending love & strength to you. It’s awful the lengths they will go to my ex hasn’t yet stole or been abusive but I won’t tolerate the drug use and the lies he’s spouts to cover it all up either. Thank you before this I was a very strong person but it has broke me I had my daughter 10 weeks ago & my anxiety was through the roof I went into my local doctors begging for blood tests to see what was wrong, at the time we were really good he hadn’t used for 8 weeks but I knew a relapse was pending and sadly it happened not long after this. My mental health has to come first as my children need me more than ever I knew detachment was the only way. I have enabled him at times only to help him stay off the drugs with diesel money to get to work but I know now he wanted the job to get money to use, I wouldn’t help him in any way now though father of my children or not it all has to come from him. He lives with he’s mother i can only imagine the disappointment she feels and she can’t be happy he’s there he is worse with her as she works until late so he slips off before she’s home. I don’t know whether rock bottom will fix him he’s pretty much there already time will tell, that’s if he’s mum doesn’t hit her own rock bottom like I have and pulls away. It’s sad because they need us more than ever but their actions push us away it’s a awful cycle of chaos one I’m glad to no longer be apart of. I hope your son gets help I really do but either way be kind to yourself and put you first in all this it’s the only thing we can have any control in all of the madness.
