My husband also went to live with his mum until in the end she kicked him out after the police were called by my son after he rang him saying he was going to end his life, he was supposed to say a few weeks 4 months later he was still there, he manages to convince her that he isn’t using and I have tried time and time again to try and make her look for the signs but I guess it’s denial.
This may seem weird but I get to the point when I can envisage the funeral and people upset and my standing up and saying ” why didn’t you just believe me”
Masters of Manipulation, Like Redfox says you want to help them so badly but you just can’t reach them.
My husband says he will get help as he wants his family back but I do not see him getting it , his behavior does not match his words in the slightest it is just one large game of deception.
It took me years to get here and my mental health suffered as a result , when I look back now I wished I had seen sense sooner , but like addicts having to reach rock bottom I think we also have to hit our own rock bottom to have the strength to stop running into a burning building and getting burnt trying to save somebody who we know will run straight back in again.
What we thought was supporting was actually helping them to get further away from us. x