Hi David,
So sorry to read your story.
I’m glad that you are getting support from this forum. If you would like more help please contact us at Icarus Trust We are a charity that offers support to people and families in your situation. We know how difficult it is to cope with an addictive partner.
If you get in touch you would be put in contact with one of our Family Friends who would listen and help you to find a way forward.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
I hope this helps. Good luck.