I really sympathise with your situation. My partner was aggressive towards me Earlier this year and I called the police – I was not hurt but he pushed me across the room and made verbal threats. When the police came he tried to dismiss and laugh off the behaviour but he was arrested which I had no choice in either. Thankfully domestic violence is taken seriously now. He started joining online CA meetings for around 6 weeks but still keeping the dealers number around. He relapsed two weeks ago and I had made the decision in my head that I would follow through with ending the relationship if he used again and continued to be emotionally and verbally abusive. I asked him to make plans to leave but he wouldn’t and I knew he wouldn’t do anything about moving (it’s my house which I own so even more frustrating). He continued to use another twice that week so When he came home last Monday i asked him again what he was doing about moving. He went crazy, started threatening me, putting his hands towards me, backing me into a corner, then switching to making a sandwich, then threatening me again and to smash my house up. I grabbed my keys and phone and left my house, stayed at a friends and the next day when he had gone to a hotel, I had the locks changed, packed all his things and put them in the shed and went back to my friends. I felt scared and guilty and sad. He is making out to his friends that I have made homeless. He made himself homeless. And he has a home, he just needed to give his tenant notice and make plans to move from my house. But you can’t be rational or reasonable with an addict. They want to bully, control, belittle, lie and deny all responsibility. All to keep fuelling the addiction, and while he was in my house, I am enabling it. We have one life, I didn’t want to wake up each day asking myself why I had chosen this. It was making me ill. He still needs to collect all his belongings from the shed and once that’s done, I can start to grieve and move on. And hopefully he will too and choose a better life’s for hImself.
I hope things have improved for you or you have found a way to find peace of mind and safety of your health and well-being,