Hey!
I’m in the exact same boat – I realised that my partner is dependent rather than an addict when reading through these forums. He is the kindest person I know; has never asked for money or been abusive or stole anything. I know these things don’t necessarily make up the qualities of a good person but I feel like I have it lucky in this sense. However, this still doesn’t stop me feeling like a second option when it comes to his withdrawal periods and occasionally when he is using. The dependency has never been an issue when it comes to work or money or bills, but I have seen it become a problem when we are out with friends or family – its like we have a time limit on how long we can spend with them before we need to get home for him to take more. I’m also struggling to see where I need to put my foot down and make boundaries and wonder if you or anyone else has any advice?
This is kind of just a mind dump for me too and as bad as it is, its reassuring to know other people are going through the same things that I am.