Hey Paul0572
I have seen all of that the blame shifting the poor me victim stance being made.
The effects of yet another binge being passed off as the effects of the toxic relationship. It hurts because nobody knows the truth , the present an image that paints them in a good light .
The lengths they go to to twist the narrative in their favour is hurtful.
I was relieved that once I made the decision not to let him back he would no longer have me to blame & people would see it for themselves.
My heart goes out to you , mine has now announced he is going to share a flat with a lad half his age who is also a coke addict . Apparently he’s changed now …, of course he has.
I know this seems like the worst pain now , but it’s either this for a short term or a lifetime of it .
Because unless the enrol & stay in a programme then this won’t ever stop & you will always carry the pain , cocaine devours them of empathy . They literally care only about drugs people that can get them drugs & people they can do drugs with.
It’s honestly like seeing somebody die & then watching them still walking around living their life . Sending love