In reality probably not
They live a whole other life you will never know the whole truth about
If they admitted the real truth you would flip your lid totally and end it
Whilst they are off in their chaotic cycle you are at home keeping the stability going so they have a base to come back to sleep it off eat reload cash and begin again
I honestly honestly tell you to cut him lose and walk away
If it was a good relationship you wouldn’t even be questioning anything or his actions and it won’t get any better that I can guarantee you
You could spend decades in this cycle he will let you continue as long as you keep taking it