Sorry Kate1… I got distracted from your original question…what should you do about it.
I find great support from a guy called Eckhart Tolle, a spiritualist/mystic living in Canada. He is particularly famous for a book called ‘The Power of Now’. This is one of his quotes that I refer back to often in moments of crisis:
“If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally.”
I hope it helps you too.