Hi,
Im so sorry u are going though that.
So with what I read . It sounds like he is given u excuses. He can’t quit on his own. He will need to go to detox and go through a sober house or program to help him. About his job I don’t know if he will loss it or they might support him with it. U can ask any place where he gets help from, if it would effect his job or his job might support him.
He will continue to use if he doesn’t get help. Your kids will be fine if he asks for help. If he continues to get high then that will put ur kids and u at ricks. He is only going to get wore from here on. Just think about what’s good for u and ur kids. If u need to leave then do so. He will get help when he is ready and it looks like he is not ready to get help. He only tells u that. So u can get off his back. If u have somewhere to go then do so or ask him to leave. Thats what I will do.
I had to section my Boyfriend after I found out he was smoking crack for 3 days in a hotel room . He tried to get back into my house after his money was gone. I had do it because he was telling me, if I didn’t let him in, he was going to kill himself. So I called the police. Cocaine makes them come down hard.
They get very depressed and moody and aggressive. At lest he did. He had to see I was serious about him getting help and That I was not going to support him if he was getting high. He got help after and now he is in a sober house. He is not the father of my kids so it didn’t affect them.
But u have to be ready to let him go. And start to do what’s good for u and ur kids.
He has to hit rock bottom as they say.
I m Hope everything works out for u. Its hard begin with someone who is an addict. Good luck!