Hi
How are u doing? How is ur husband doing?
Im not doing so great. I just dropped him off at the sober house. He has been sober for 2 months and a week today. He kept telling me, if he doesn’t come home he was leaving. Now Im trying to call him and he is not picking up. Im going crazy because Im scared he might relapse. They put in the hard work but the drug is stronger then them. I think my boyfriend is relapsing right now or he is meeting up with an other woman. My mind is going crazy.
No-one understands why we stick around. I don’t even know way I pick up the phone when he calls. I love him but after this I think Im done. My family doesn’t even know about this hole thing. He won’t tell his family that he was smoking crack and even if he did they won’t help him. They don’t want anything to do with him. Thats way I feel stuck with him and the need to help him. In the end I can’t help him if he doesn’t help himself.
There is no point in getting mad or anger. It will only make u sick. I think I lost hope after today. When they are addicts and are not ready to get help, no-one stands in there way. He might be a good man, when he is sober, I know mine is. But the addiction will change them and the way they think. I know it’s hard but ur going to have to let it go or let him go.
it’s only heart break.. they won’t change for anyone but themself.
There is nothing more u can do. And getting angry won’t help u. Go get ur nails done or go for a walk and take care of yourself. Start to think if this is the life u want because I been with mine for nine years. It started with alcohol and then cocaine and now smocking crack. It’s a pattern and it won’t change until he wants to change for himself. Its coming down to, if I am willing to expect his addiction or walk away.
Medication might help but my boyfriend abuses his medication so he can get high. It’s always something with them. I am thinking really hard right now because my life will always be like this, always anger, stressed out and wondering when he will start to use or abuse his medication. I hope everything goes good with u.
Its hard