Hi Linda,
I’ve been reading your story on this thread. I’m so very sorry you are going through this with your son.
We’re all on this forum because we have a loved one with an addiction.
I usually post on the Theresa thread, we are all mums with sons with addictions.
My son is 28yrs and has alcohol and cocaine addictions. The last 14yrs of his (and our ) lives has been a nightmare. I understand some of what you’re going through.
My son reached out to us for help almost 2 years ago. He admitted his addictions and asked us to support him. He joined AA and CA and has got himself clean but also has had relapses.
He told me to still love him but hate the addiction and what it does. I think you’re doing the right thing supporting the best way you can under these really difficult circumstances. Detaching yourself a bit is something you need to do for your own sanity in my opinion.
Find time for yourself and celebrate small achievements. The forum has advice and support as do the Icarus trust who post here. I hope you both get the help and support you both need.
Unfortunately until they themselves admit they have a problem and want support there’s little we as mums can do except pray and support them as best we can without enabling them too much.
Stay strong, keep in touch here. It helps to vent or seek support.
Take care ❤
Lx