Reply To: How to be yourself again when your Partners’s an addict

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Coke is certainly not a joke

Coke can imprison the addict and their loved ones emotionally and financially

It’s basically how much you are willing to take and give away

And if you think you can see a future then stay but after ten years with no change yet you have to expect that it won’t ?

If you are prepared to spend another ten years waiting for change that is your choice to make

My husband was a chronic coke user/addict and so were ALL his friends

I do not use coke and NONE of my friends are addicts

My husband tried to get me to use lots of times but I couldn’t see the fun or the point

He lied everyday and I genuinely thought he was telling the truth but it was just manipulation

That’s why I left

I couldn’t stand the disappearing/ turning off phone/begging forgiveness

The endless cycle of picking up the pieces

I didn’t want to hand my wages to a dealer

I didn’t have any compulsion to use coke or hang round with people off their faces

He used for 20 years and it came before, our marriage our children our home

He would spend every penny he had on drugs and had not one bit of remorse that I stood in line at the food bank whilst he smoked £200 to £400

One thing ruled his head – drugs

he would tell me I was the love of his life

He couldn’t live without me

He would kill himself if I left him

This was the last time he would use

I am going to sort myself out

He hated the crap and would never touch it again

Now he is on a psych ward still begging for coke off the doctors

The staff all thought I used because of association that made me feel so embarrassed and was just another validation that I has made the Right decision. I don’t want me or my children tarnished with any association to drugs and I don’t want them growing up tainted or thinking it’s normal or okay

So no coke is not funny it’s a very dangerous game to play

It destroys everything

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