Hi Cali,
Thats what happens when someone turns to Coke, they run away from responsibility, cocaine is their friend, and anyone who tries to stop them is distanced as they think they are trying to stop them using it.
My husband used to be awful to me, mental torture. Accusations to deflect from his own screw ups. I hated life and just wanted to get off of the rollercoaster. We have a child together, and I was doing everything on my own, he would just use the house to wallow around in when he was coming down. I lived for the very small glimmers of normality that I occasionally had. I have PTSD now, which is down to the life I used to have with him when he was using.
Fast forward 18 months and I’ve had the best 18 months ever, he is back, he is motivated, he is fun, he looks healthy.
But….. and its a big but. If we had not had a child, and if I knew 15 years ago what I know now about what would happen in those years, I would have run a mile.
You simply have to put yourself first, and your feelings are the most important thing. You get one life and it should be lived, not existed.
Christina is right, they turn into Jekyll and Hyde, and you dont know from one day to the next which you’ll get.
Be happy and do what is best for YOU, not for him. You are dealing with a different person to the one you fell in love with.
x