Hi Lucy
I have to agree with Ash. It does slowly creep up on them. I’m at the stage I am at now after 12 years of misuse/addiction. It does get worse.
I know people who can control it. In the sense they use at parties or going out with friends and socialising. However, cocaine in my eyes is a devil it takes peoples soles if they are not mentally strong enough to fight it. It sucks the life out of them and buries them deep inside. I never thought cocaine could be so harmful. People always assume heroine is the worst with the physical withdrawals. I often question this as cocaine mentally destroys a person.
I hope your partner does not fall deeper into the trap. My only advice is to get out when you can if you see no change. The stress, upset, trauma and negative effects it will have on your own state of mind is horrendous. I would not wish my predicament and that of those on this forum on anyone.
Take Care x