And theres the paranoia. Why can’t you join a gym and keep fit for you, its not always for someone elses benefit.
Honestly, you are better off out of this toxic situation. You sound like a good guy and you’re getting taken for a ride. Ask yourself one thing – what are YOU getting from this relationship, what have you got from it in the last 6 months. I suspect the answer is not much, and you deserve better.
It sounds like you have done plenty to help and support her over the years, now its time to move on. Don’t worry about what she’s told people about you, you know the truth 🙂
I once didn’t answer the phone because I was at a company customer event, in a keynote speech, and I had 46 missed calls in 5 minutes, all because our daughter had been sick. I was 2 hours from home. Why wasnt I answering, what was I doing that was so important…. it does not get any better until she’s clean.