Hi Cali,
A friend of mine has been using cocaine for about 6 years now.
I know the circumstances are very different, but I don’t think you can really say he’s moved on and found someone else and is in a loved up relationship. My friend on cocaine goes through women quite a bit, appears he can’t hold down a healthy relationship as the drug always wins in the end unless they really want to stop.
I was researching online, and it’s clear that when someone is in recovery they should avoid any new relationships as this can trigger them into using. It’s all about clearing the mind and body and allowing yourself time to recover. They say relationships should be avoided in the first year. Do you think he has told you he’s with someone to try and get a reaction from you? Possibly that’s what he’s doing.
Last year my friend was telling me how he wanted to start something with me, then he went through a moment saying how he didn’t think we were a good idea, that bit is clear, I don’t want to be with anyone battling addiction in that sense as it’s not helpful to them and neither good for my mental health, nevertheless I still worry for him. My friend actually thinks when he’s on drugs by telling me about anyone he’s in a sexual relationship with that he’s making me jealous, and a part of me does get upset but then I think outside the box and remember that he’s actively using and drugs is the only important thing to him in the end. When my friend is sober he’s just a completely different character but he needs to really work on his recovery which I pray he does and seriously stops sooner rather than later.