Hey there.
I’m so sorry to hear what your going through. What he’s doing does sound familiar to me with my situation as well. They don’t like to face anyone who is calling them out about the drugs. I’ve been through a really hard time with this. My husband left me after he started acting extremely weird – not coming home, lying, extreme mood swings. I found out about the coke through messages I found on our computer. He said he wasn’t happy and didn’t want our marriage anymore. Still says it has nothing to do with the drugs although he’s also said ‘it got out of hand’ during that period but then he will turn around and also say he’s only done it 4 times and never spent money on it (all of our money is also gone). Basically I feel like they just lie and run and hide because they are not ready to face they people they are hurting the most. It turning messy with us now as friends are getting involved and think I’m making all this up as he is such a good manipulator at this point. He was such a great man before. We had just bought a new car together and signed a new lease right before this all happened. He admits he had no intention of leaving me. Nothing makes sense. Just trying to get on with my life now. I also moved to another country to be with him so am very alone here. I understand how hard this all is. In the end all you have is yourself I’ve come to find out. He is ashamed of all the lies he’s told you and you don’t deserve any of it. It’s a toxic web. Please take care and reach out to a therapist or doctor if you need as I’ve had to do the same. It’s a lot to take on. Take care.