Everything Esta says is true – they actually start lying to themselves, and for me that is the hardest thing to see.
A ‘friend’ of mine reported my partner to social services. We had seperate homes but spent most of our time together (because we had a child) – I refused to sell up and live with him until he got clean.
When social services came to visit they inspected my house, interviewed my partner and myself. Spoke to my child – I think they probably contacted the school. I think the only reason they didnt take further action was because I told them ‘yes’ he’s an alcoholic but I refuse to live with him because I want to protect my child.
I thought a baby would change everything but addiciton is too powerful. Watch the psychiatrist Gabor Mate on youtube and his talks on addiction – they are very powerful and give you an understanding of the addicts mind and where and how this begans. After years of living with an addict and now my son is an addict he has been the only person who has made me look at my own childhood and how this can continue generationally if we are not ‘present’ as mothers. So, for your childs sake you have to find some way out for now – it could take him years to recover but your child deserves to grow up in peace. I waited too long – until he died – and that has seriously damaged me and my son.