Hi, I’ve been reading this forum for a few years now. Here’s my story…
I met my husband when I was 17 and we was together for 18 years and we have 4 children together.
I have always been anti drugs so it didn’t even cross my mind that my husband was an addict.
Like many of you I sat at home waiting for him to return from his 4-5 day benders.
I didn’t think it was drugs because he never needed money and it wasn’t affecting us financially!
We owned a nice home, a nice car, our own caravan… I thought we had everything we could ever want in life.
This man was my whole world… That’s how good he was at manipulating!
Now this is how it is now…
He cheated on me 5 times and he advertised himself on a site called fabswingers. He joined numerous dating sites and manipulated women into sending him money!
He’d have a couple on the go at once!
He had been a regular cocaine user for years… I was blind to it! I was naive! I was stupid!
I couldn’t see any bad in this man because I loved him and I was codependent!
He is now using crack!
He shows no interest in our children.. he lost his job! We lost our home! He has debts amounting to more than 20 grand! Drug dealers are on the hunt for him!
He is a stranger! He is nasty and selfish and nothing I say to him is heard!
He now lives in a rotten caravan!
Drugs have completely taken over and it’s destroyed my life too… I was always confident and outgoing! Now I am on anti depressants and beta blockers!
He knows what he has become and he makes no effort to help himself!
For years I have tried to help him but it has taken over my life completely!
It’s been a month now since I last had contact with him!
I have started counselling to break my need for him.
I really hope for anyone in my situation to seek help for themselves and not focus on the addict.