I’ve read through all the posts today and it’s crazy how many similarities there is between all of our situations. My boyfriend is half way through a 12 week rehab.. But at times I’m wondering if I should be feeling guilty about how much I’m enjoying him being away! It’s such a relief to not have to worry what I’m coming home to. He seems to be doing really well in the programme and realising a lot about himself while he’s away but I’m trying not to be too optimistic as I know the struggle only really starts when he gets home. I’m actually dreading how it’s going to be when he gets out. Like some of you have said, it’s hard to be this supposed saving angel and be positive and supportive when I’m still getting flashbacks of all the lies and hurt he’s caused me. But I’m trying to have some faith in the programme and I think I will go back to my family addiction counsellor when he gets out… I suppose it’s a wait and see kinda thing. But I’m glad that I’m not the only one uncomfortable with this Saint title when they’re meant to be doing well.
I know I’m not in too much of a position to give advise yet but I think @chellou it could be a good idea to confront your husband about drinking and suggest the 12 steps, because if he’s just replacing coke with alcohol, it may only be a matter of time until he’s back on coke again, either way it still sounds like addiction is still having a really negative effect on your relationship.