Hi Starlight2,
Welcome the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice too.
Thank you sharing your story here. I’m so sorry to hear that your dad’s addiction is turning your world’s upside down. This is what this evil drug is like, it turns the person you love into someone you don’t like . It turns them into people, they themselves don’t like either.
This need for the drug, is all they think about, people they love are pushed to the side. Deep inside, they do still care, it’s just the need for cocaine is stronger.
My 28yr old son has alcohol and cocaine addictions. I know only too well what it can do to a loving family.
I wish I had the answers Starlight, but until your dad admits he has a problem and wants help- there’s not a lot we as loved ones can do.
My son came to us for help 2 years ago, he joined AA and CA meetings regularly. Got a sponsor, they do the 12 steps program, Google it. The adfam homepage offer advice and support also the Icarus trust posts here too.
If you click ‘share your story ‘ and read Danman83 story, he is a person in recovery, his advice and story is there to support others.
I think recovery can be achieved without professional help, but the addict needs to seek the help, be totally committed to the program and trust those who want to help him.
My son has relapsed in the past, but is currently 4 months clean. It’s so hard for him, every day is a battle. But I do tell him I love him every day, and he loves me too. Its an evil drug, but many people are strong enough to overcome it for a better life.
Take care of yourself, confide in someone close. Find time to enjoy life , don’t let the effects of this evil drug take over your family.
Ask your mum to contact the above contacts. Tell her to be strong and seek advice and support too.
Sending you hugs
Lx