Hey there hope you are OK.
I’ve been addicted to coke for 12 year. And I’ve been doing my very best to stop for years. I tried everything, self will, hypnosis, councilling ect.
Some of it did work but only for a few week or. Month. I’ve never used every day, it was once a week or few week or even month. You don’t have to use every day to be an addict. Your partner is clearly an addict.
Basically when you are addicted to coke you have triggers, this is things like places and faces that remind you of cocaine and make you want to use.. So.. If I use to pick my cocaine up at asda car park, this is a trigger. So if I ever drive past asda it will make me want to buy coke as I have picked coke up there.
Another main trigger is and this is the main one, alcohol.. People who drink soon want cocaine, I can have 1 pint and that’s it, I’m ringing the dealer. This is for most coke users. So him working in a bar. Big massive trigger. He could be on it everyday if he’s drinking.
Him wanting to need it for sex ect.. Is just the addict in him making excuses to use. He was alright before he ever had coke I guess. So it’s his brain tricking him.
There is so much to talk about it but this is the basics.
When the coke wears off its called a comedown, and this makes u feel depressed and suicidal for days. And its a vicious circle.
My friend committed suicide on a comedown this year. It drains the life out of people.
Anyway.. To stop.. He needs to want to stop for himself, u can’t tell him to, he needs to more or less hit his rock bottom, or just had enough of it. That’s the 1st thing. I joined cocaine anonymous in Jan, I got my best clean time 4 month, then used then 3 month. Then a few bumps and back on 10 days. He needs to work the 12 steps, and get a sponsor and do meetings, they are on zoom as well.
He has to quit alcohol for the rest of his life if he doesn’t want to use.
Cut all ties off with people that use, get a new num, and I think not work In a bar. Hope this. Helps.
I probably have left things out but feel free to ask me anything