Hiya roo I hope your OK.
So Ive been on coke for 12 years now roughly, and I’ve done my best to stop for years. I tried everything.
But I joined cocaine annonymous in Jan and I got my best clean time of 4 month, then lapsed then 3 month clean. Then a few wobbles and back on 2 week now.
Anyways I won’t go into what he needs to do to quit. I’m just gonna give my opinion on what I think you should do. And if I was you I’d leave now. He won’t ever stop until he admits he has a problem and he’s getting help. He’s dissappearing for days ect.. Using at work did u say?
He would need get a new job tbh to get away from that environment.
And I’m gonna be honest now because I have to live an honest life now. Cocaine and escorts and massage parlours and cheating come hand in hand. I’ve done them. Im not proud. I cheated. It turned me like this. The searches are obv his. Adultwork is the main one most go on. Having come just makes you want get an escort ect.. Its the sneedyness and slyness that coke turns u in to. Its like you get a kick out of it.
It’s turns u into a person you are not. I’d never of done this clean.
So you are 30 in jan and have no kids. My advice get out now and don’t look back. And tell him your worried about him and he needs get help and you can stay around any longer. If he says let’s have a baby that will help him focus.. It won’t I’ve been there.
You need to think of yourself you really do. Go be happy somewere else. My gf kicked me out in May. It was my fault and I get a new flat in 2 week. I wish I never touched this stuff.
But your young and have no ties. Get out while you can and be happy. That’s my advice. It’s your life tho. But do you want to be here in 5 years time? It’s hard splitting up but it will get better and you will find someone that will make u happy. Feel free to ask me anything