In my personal experience, no I’m not seeing that. The main thing I’ve noticed is that he is becoming more assertive and better at setting boundaries, which is no bad thing although surprising at times given his general tendency in the past to bottle things up and retreat into drinking rather than confronting issues. His meetings and therapy have really helped him work things through and get to a better place. Having that support means he is starting to be able to articulate how he’s feeling and have adult conversations about it. We’ve also had couples counselling together, which I don’t think I mentioned before but again, really helpful.
I can understand where you’re coming from – it can be a real struggle for us as partners to unpick what’s ‘addict’ versus ‘normal’ behaviour caused by other things like work, home life, other health issues or even hormones (a big factor for women I would say). I remember I found it particularly difficult to relax and not be constantly wondering if he was being honest after having been gaslit by him for so many years about his drinking. It’s taken a good few years for me to work through it and there’s still work to be done.