Hi Kikkiclark,
Welcome to the Forum. Your story is so similar to my own, except it’s my Son, and it’s like living in hell with them. All the lies, the money they waste is untrue, feeling sorry for themselves, the list goes on and on.
My son went to rehab twice, I wish he could of gone for 6 months but unfortunately I’m not a millionaire, as you know it’s very expensive. Rehab gives them the tools to try and go back out into the outside world and put those tools into practice, but I think they give up too easily. I think it’s all about choices, making the right ones instead of choosing the easy route which just leads to destruction of them and us, and there is only so much people can take.
I think you have done the right thing by leaving, especially as you have your Son to think of.
Stay strong and there is always someone to chat to on here. So glad I found Adfam.
Take care and just think about you and your Son.
Dx