I can understand your deep sadness, twenty years plus is a long time to share your life with someone. As you say you could do no more and I think many of us here would probably say the same of our own experience, so why do we feel so sad? The closer you are to someone and the longer you are with them the more it hurts and the more frustrated we feel, even though we know we have done everything we can. You have made a courageous decision – I don’t know if you have any family to support you, I hope so. Most of us come on here as we are all in similar situations – and sometimes it is a bit of a relief to communicate with people who can really relate to what is happening to us. I think most of us feel emotionally and physically drained and it can certainly be a very lonely place to be in these situations. All I can say is that you are not alone and this is a site at least where we can come together and voice our thoughts. Post any time you do feel lonely and know that many of us here are in similar situations where we feel at our wits end, it may be a husband, a son, mother etc. who has the problem but we all understand the heartache and devastation that their addictions cause.
