I know this is a super old thread but I felt every word of what you’ve said. My brother is the same and I’ve washed my hands of him completely. If the rest of the family want to continue being lied to, gaslit, blamed, scapegoated and spoken to like pr!cks, that’s on them. I second everything you say about the drug and alcohol service – useless af!
All I can control is prayers he gets better and that my Mum starts making sense of the fact she is an enabler.