Reply To: Alcoholic Brother Has Gone Too Far. I’m So Tired.

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FrazzlePop24
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Aw,thanks.

Nope! True to form, he’s been popping by since this happened, saying less and less about why he’s turned up each time and staying longer and longer.
The first day, he come to collect a jacket.

The second day, he came to ‘get his bike’, which has been broken for months and he was stalling for time making a show of trying to fix it in front of Mum. She cannot keep still when he’s visiting, she follows him around with clean clothes and socks like he’s five. It’s actually vomit inducing.

This afternoon, he came back, no mention of why, getting nice and cosy.

Apparently, he ‘lost’ his druggie prescription, came to hers and she went back there with him and apparently the prescription has already been filled…So, then get the CCTV and prove it – because why doesn’t he have the drugs?

So, no meds-he’s gone else where to procure the real stuff – which Mum likely paid for…
He comes back 6 hrs later, so it’s late and getting ready to bed down for the night…

We have been telling Mum all day this feels like a ruse – she, in her Dot Cotton glory swears straight he’s ‘being given a tent, having a shower and then going’….it’s likely they planned this whole thing. They’re both liars and have form on this front.

She takes 30 mins to work up the courage to ask him to leave.
He takes that same amount of time to leave whilst talking sh*t about being asked to leave.

She then follows him out tonight with his tent to the car park to ‘settle him down’ – this is a 33 year old grown man.

It is not unheard of and therefore entirely plausible that she will sit in the park with him until it’s late, then sneak him in when we’re sleeping…bearing in mind, this is a 60-odd year old woman out at night babysitting her crackhead son who treats her like less than the help…which begs the question:

WHAT THE ACTUAL F**K?

Her party line to us earlier was: ‘oh,no. He has to go, otherwise you will all be upset with me…..’

It’s like ”No, he has to go so you and your dependent children can sleep and live in peace without a raging alcoholic and drug abuser screaming in your face and threatening you all. Your child is failing every subject in school, one room of your home is filthy, he’s doing drugs with your disbaled son present in the room, and you never know if you’re going to wake up to a fully charred kitchen, or a sink full of dishes and you’re having to hide all the knives”.

Honestly, if she doesn’t wake up soon, I fear something tragic will happen by his hand because she cannot maintain a boundary for more than 48 hours, even when been threatened – she told my sister she has never been so scared in her life by what’s happened.

So, why keep coddling someone who so blatantly hates you?

Him being ‘well’ is neither here nor there to me because there’s nothing actually wrong with him, he isn’t ill, he just likes being a junkie because of the attention it gives him.
Even sober, he is a nasty b@stard, drugs and beer just make it more apparent.

How she has evaded social services is beyond me because the way all of us have presented growing up because we were knackered from being woken up by him or getting into fights with my Dad.

And when we’re challenging her about why he’s being allowed into the house so easily, she says ”I want peace in my life”, which means ”Don’t challenge me about this bad idea because I cannot handle conflict”. Which I find interesting because she grew up in a household with a lot of shouting.

So, she’d rather live in complete misery than, be the bad guy – I mentioned this to her earlier about not wanting to be the bad guy, and I knew I hit the nail on the head – she went silent and went to get his tent.

Look, if she wants to have him back here, that’s fine.

But when he does something heinous, I don’t want to hear any more complaints.

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