I found talking when he has been drinking always ends in arguments too. It’s not recommended from what I’ve read. I find it very difficult not to confront him at the time though it triggers high anxiety in me and I can’t bare it.
. I wish I could wait until he was not drinking but he denies it then so I try to confront gently and head on even though I’m screaming inside.
It’s not been a great week here, we had a really big row, because he was trying not to hide it from me and told me more truth than I could actually handle, He got angry and so did I, and he was sober at the time I think.
A big step for him but it almost broke us. He had a better day yesterday though I feel very vulnerable and trapped by his behaviour and because financially we are totally dependent on him.