Hi, I can sense the desperation in your post. You obviously love your wife as much as I love my husband.
I won’t lie, I thought I could stop my husband from using. I haven’t. Instead his drug use has worn me down to the point that I cannot cry anymore.
You and your children are what matters currently. All of you, your happiness & health. Concentrate on this.
I’m not ready to leave my husband, I have told him that he needs to give me his bank cards & I will provide “pocket money “. He is spending incredible amounts of money on coke. I have said to him that we need to see the gp together.
I have spent too much time on my own whilst he sleeps off the effects of his binges. I don’t stay in anymore waiting, looking after him. I go out to the gym. Have made new friends and walk my dogs. He has started to notice. I’m getting stronger in myself. Strangely this seems to worry him.
I have learnt I can’t change him until he wants to.
loving someone with an addiction is almost like a bereavement. But people do recover & im still hanging on to that.