Hi,
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry that you are in such a difficult situation. If you would like to get some help for yourself you might want to contact us at Icarus Trust as we are a charity that supports people dealing with addiction in their families. Talking with one of our trained and experienced Family Friends would let you know what help is available for yourself as well as your wife.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
All the best to you and your family.