Hi
I’m now 2 odd years on. I started therapy last month. So, so much has come out. She couldn’t believe how much I’d swallowed down…for so long and completely swept my needs away to care for him and family. I recommend therapy after the trauma, essential to move on and stop resentment building. He started therapy again to deal with emotional aspects. His drinking has slowed down. No longer addicted to weed or coke. Isn’t using porn. Is not manipulating or lying.
However…I’m now trying to be more authentic and have made it clear we’re on parallel therapy journeys. Won’t stop mine till its all out. I feel empowered and happier. Exhausting rehashing certain sticking points with him but vital to move forwards. We’re not who we’ we were…futures aren’t defined clearly. Living in present which has unsettled him but freed me. Good luck and if you feel lighter in your head and heart you’re doing great x