Hi Finlou38, I really feel for you and your children. I was married to an Alcoholic and I have one Son. I had to leave the family home because my husband’s drinking was out of control. He died in 2012, my Son is now 15, we left when he was 5.
I know how exhausted you must feel, with a little baby and another child. You must think of yourself and your children. You cannot be a Mother to them if you’re going through constant trauma with your Fiance’s drinking.
If he’s drinking daily, the problem will only get progressively worse. It’s not your job to worry about his mental state….your duty is to yourself and your children. His duty is to you and your children ( he is fufilling neither ).
Please find a way to leave the relationship / home. Please tell everyone and get help. Do you have anyone who can help you leave?
It won’t get better I’m afraid. You wouldn’t be the one breaking up the family! He is creating that with his unacceptable behavior. Perhaps the useful organisations, in the Help for Families, on the menu bar, on this site can help.
I know that it’s so difficult to leave when you have a young baby, but please muster up the courage to leave or break up with him some how.
Routing for you. You are now responsible for him. Also you need to get your children away before they become affected by the situation.
Very good luck, you can do it, reach out.
Meanwhile, record and document everytime he’s drunk etc in a diary.
You don’t need to be ashamed it’s not you doing this….