Forgive yourself and let go
You have nothing to be ashamed of you have been honest and given love to someone who has abused it beyond all limits
You feel broken because you are mentally and physically exhausted but day by day it will get easier
Some days will feel just too hard (just do what you need to do to get through them) but they will fade as your self confidence and strength comes back
Keep moving forward
He will not change
He will let you carry his weight without a care for your feelings as long as you let him
There is life without him and you will look back and realise you are right it’s a relationship based on lies, manipulation with no truth
Let yourself be free of it all and live again – not having to lie and cover up all the time feels so good
You deserve to be happy
And you will be once you get through this part which is horrendous the grief can be overwhelming and you feel it will never end and you will never get over it – but you will – eventually – just try to stay strong and not go back
Being on your own is less lonely than being in a one sided relationship trying to work out what is lies or truth and left in limbo when they disappear for days up to all sorts and we are left worrying when they don’t give us a second thought
You are not alone – there are so many of us going through the same awful torture because that’s what it is – and a good relationship is not that – it’s full of love trust and honesty and you don’t find that stuck in the past
Don’t be afraid to tell your family the truth it will help draw a final line underneath it all
It’s done and they want better for you and you telling them means there is no going back
It will all pass and everything will change for the better
You took the first step and walked away – now keep going
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