Thank you for the supportive words. My partner is now seeking support and actively attending CA meetings but as you said the fear and mistrust lingers. I’m so conscious of not doing anything that might enable him further. I’m trying not to analyse everything but it’s tricky as I feel like ‘how did I not see’.
I have made it clear to my partner their debt is theirs to payback and at the moment he’s moved into the spare room. I’m going to attend a family support meeting this eve to try and get some perspective