I managed to catch up with her ex-husband. We get on well and he gave me some more insight. He also said he was stunned with what had happened as Kate is so happy.
From what I’m gathering and I already knew most of this from Kate. In her teens, she partied hard and was in with a really poor crowd, he bf was a dealer. She has never admitted it but I feel she was an addict.
She got herself off of it and has taken the odd line of coke years apart when she has been with this cousin.
Her ex doesn’t seem to be a fan of his. He also said that he once tried to “protect” her with regards to a promotion at work asking her if she thought it was a good idea. It was the end of their marriage.
He has already explained to Kate that what she sees as normal, I see as frightening which is correct in part. He also said that she was being honest in bringing it up with me but how she handled it when she got the response she knew she got wasn’t fair.
Was I being harsh in just walking and bit sitting down? I was so upset at what I felt was being asked of me. In fact, looking back, I’ve no idea what she was asking me.