Hi,
Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry that your partner’s drinking is making life so tough for you.
Perhaps you would like to contact us at Icarus Trust as we are a charity that provides support for people dealing with addiction in their family. We have specially trained people called Family Friends and one of them would talk with you if you get in touch. Maybe talking with them would help to answer some of your questions.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck.