My goodness me what a harrowing story, and good for you to be brave enough to go through the legal channels. That’s absolutely amazing.
Have you contacted Lighthouse.. they should be able to offer you support with this distressing crime. You may even be able to do court via video link rather than facing him in the court room.
i think you should also speak to the team here at adfam and/or icarus trust. You should not have to go through this horrible ordeal alone.
My husband got violent with me a lot of times in his active addiction and it was utterly terrifying. I didn’t know about the drugs at that point and assumed it was alcohol. I threatened him with the police and that was usually enough to make him see sense before i got hurt too badly or the house was completely destroyed (probably because he didn’t want to get busted for drugs). He also was very paranoid and one regular argument we had was about him having cctv installed around the house. I refused and it got nasty… what was i hiding? he would scream at me. He’s also tried raiding my phone to the point i had to hide it in my kids bedrooms a fair few times. It isn’t their true self behaving like that but at the same time it is, but it’s up to them to choose recovery for themselves. We can only stand by and lovingly detatch to protect ourselves.
I’m lucky, my husband is doing well in his recovery and I’m gradually working through my mental health issues. I have severe ptsd and am very depressed and anxious. I go to talking therapy weekly which helps.
Your partner may not be ready to change but the courts may enforce some kind of rehab order.
I hope your friends and family csn be supportive x