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Thanks ZoeG, I really appreciate your response and thoughts on this. Yes your right, he needs to want to stop and nothing will change unless he gets to that point – if he gets to that point.

My husband hates the fact he is dependant on it. He admits he has a problem. He continues to do it and we do all suffer.

This is what is hard. I have been with him 20 years. I suppose it depends on how much I am willing to take and put up with.

Thank you again for responding, I wasn’t in a good place earlier. It’s been a rough weekend but trying to get myself together! X