Don’t buy it for him as you will become his next excuse and an enabler. If you want him to stop then buying it is sending the wrong message.
He needs to get help though and he needs to be able to take responsibility and decide what exactly is important to him. Is the drink more important than anything else? Thank you ? Than the kids? Than your family life?
For my husband I think his work and me and the children being financially dependent were the only things that was slightly more important. ( but he was starting to drink during the day too and whilst working so that too was becoming less important) I confronted him everyday I saw him drunk. Told him it wasn’t appropriate and that he would have to make a decision as I had to protect myself and the children. He could see how anxious it was making me and he went to the dr for support. I did too and my dr gave me anti depressants for my anxiety they didn’t give my husband anything though, but sent him for physical checks and to a substance abuse service for assessment.
His dr won’t give him anti depressants until he stops drinking.
I think when they are actually drinking every day though it becomes the only good thing that they have in their lives. That’s what my husband says. He says he hasn’t got anything else that’s fun or that soothes/numbs his stress. He definitely is depressed. Life is very stressful and he has lost sight of fun days or even just feeling happy. The drink clouds everything though and is a depressant too so it became like a dark hole he couldn’t climb out of.
Something has changed here though. My husband did get some help from this local service. ( not much) but talking to me and his dr and the little help , even though the service is unreliable, seemed to be helping him see a better future. It’s been really hard. If I and then children were not so dependent I think I might have walked away a few times but for some reason ( love/hope) I managed to dig deep and I’m still here.
Do you have other support other than here? . Maybe in January if he can manage without it then it will be a good month for talking? Encourage him to talk to his dr. And for him to see the benefits? Give him some time to get through the first few horrible days /a week with no drink then try to find all the positives.