Hi
I’m sorry you are struggling with your sons alcohol addiction
I only joined this site in October
After many years dealing with my sons drink problems
It’s so hard to cope with
I’ve been enabling him and sorting his life out picking up the pieces all the time for him
I’ve bailed him out with money covered for him with work
Been there for his daughter when he hasn’t
We had time where we haven’t spoken for weeks
None of it has made any difference
He split from his second wife last year and now I’m tapped into being with him
After he started self harming
He’s 49
He has made himself ill with binge drinking now he has lots of medical issues
You could try talking to your son about his health
But the only person who can stop him is himself
He’s young so hopefully other influences
Will help
I’m sick of hearing those words but I’m afraid they are true
He may find himself a long way down the rabbit hole before he stops
My advise is to be kind to yourself
He’s is an adult
My son has made me so unhappy
But I won’t give up on him
But it comes at a cost to my health my relationships my bank balance and my other son and his family
Good luck
I have found this site very helpful
Joanie ???? x