Hi cess
It’s very scary seeing your son self destruct
My son has been like that since 16 he 49 now and made my life miserable
I should have been harder on him from the start I did threaten to put his photo up in all the off licences when he was 15
He always look older than he was
He has never towed the line he has always been out of control it was girls money or drink or just doing what he wanted and never a thought for anyone
He joined the navy at 16 at all that did was teach him how to drink
I think is a fault in their genes he’s has an
Addictive personality
Fast forward to now 2 wives later
Lost homes due to debt lost relationships due to drink
He’s lost everything and now he’s still using me as a crutch
My only advise is to get help for yourself
And be as hard as you can with him
I’ve enabled my son and it’s made him worse
It’s hard you don’t want him to fail or be in trouble but the more you cover or make things right the easier you make it for him to be the way he is
I wish I’d been stronger I’m 69 now his latest thing is binge drinking he’s been in hospital 5 times this year
It’s horrible to see him wrecked being sick looking like a homeless person
I live 150 miles from him and I’ve been up and down the country all year
My life revolves around his actions
I’ve been with him for the last 7 weeks
He’s sober but as soon as I go he will be back on the booze
All us mums on here do what we do because we love our sons /daughters
Sorry for rattling on
Wish I could be more help
Be kind to yourself
Hugs
Joanie x