Hi Cess, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions.
I’m so sorry to read your story, its all very familiar to me and other mums on this forum.
The Adfam homepage offer advice and support also Drugfam or the Icarus trust post here.
I wish I had all the answers, but I do know that it’s difficult to support them until they admit they have a problem and need help and support. Your son is so young, they think they are invincible at this age. My son was dabbling at 14 , but it escalated over the years.
We didn’t realise it at the time but he “partied ” hard. He progressed to cocaine in his late teens, the alcohol is a trigger for cocaine.
Two years ago, he was about to lose everything, came to us for help. He joined AA and CA groups, there have been relapses but this happens.
He is currently 6mth+ clean , every day is a battle for him, this festive period is a difficult time for people in recovery.
I joined the Theresa thread here, we are all mums with sons with addictions, everyone is so kind and supportive and you don’t feel so alone.
Joanie is right, please look after yourself and your well being .
Always here to chat or vent.
Lx