Hi, I’m new here too and just want to say I too am struggling with my adult child. She is an addict and over the past 10 years my life has suffered, emotionally, financially, I don’t get close to any new acquaintances or neighbours etc in case they judge me, I keep everyone at arms length, I’ve gone through thousands and thousands of pounds trying to help her in new directions with her life, courses for different jobs, rehabs, rent payments when she moved out but she’s back now.
The person I become at times when I get angry and frustrated by her returning to her addiction, I don’t even recognise.
I am trying to start this new year with good intentions for myself, to be calm and sensible in every encounter with her and to be determined not to accept any bad behaviour or treatment from her, but it is very hard.
Take care of yourself, respect yourself, love yourself, you have tried so hard, you deserve some peace. X