Hiya Dan, hope your well & had a good Xmas & new year. Your totally right I need to focus on me as it has been affecting me for along time mentally whether I’m involved or distancing myself I can’t switch off worrying about him it’s really unhealthy. He’s addiction is cocaine he’s 32 been using since he was 16/17 got out of hand last two years. I have left the door open to him and said I won’t get back with him until he stops, my mum said i shouldn’t of said it as it makes me look silly and he knows this already. I dunno is it good give him hope of reconciliation? Sorry to hear she hasn’t been supportive, I know me personally talking to him about it really triggers me and I talk to others instead of him when it’s he’s problem which is silly. He is a good dad & person which upsets the most about this situation he’s letting it ruin him. He been turning up for the kids he had let them down once before didn’t show, he has them every other fortnight. He hasn’t paid last two weeks due to relapsing, he is trying but i think me being there isn’t helping so need to let him deal with it & hope me cutting him off gives him incentive to change.
