Hi Dan we are from east London. I am familiar with CA he joined a zoom online once said all they spoke about was god & it was quote “a load of bollocks” he thinks he can quit himself but after relapsing more than a few times I think he has come to realise how hard it’s going to be, he was doing well about 6 weeks or so then relapsed before Christmas. I think me being there is enabling I don’t help him in anyway or give him money but him knowing I will always forgive he’s relapses I don’t think is helpful we’re stuck in a cycle and at times I have been codependent I am reading a book called “codependent no more” it’s about learning not to control others or outcomes which we cannot control. I wish he would listen and I could get him to speak with you, as you would really help but he is so distant he isolates or goes quiet every time before a relapse so I know he’s using that then sets of my anxiety big time it’s a horrible situation. He also is awful at communicating about it & gets very defensive. You’ve come such a long way Dan the knowledge you have gained ie triggers what to do it will help you & you will beat this it will take time but you’ll get there just don’t give up! You help so many of us on here your insight really helps us try to understand and you really do put our minds at ease!
