Hi JennaKS,
I am so sorry for you going through all of this.
I have been going through similar with my wife for 2 and a half years and trust me when I say that removing the accessibility to money doesn’t cure this situation. And as a previous post has mentioned, addicts are master manipulators, so you cannot take what is said at face value. My wife deleted all the dealers numbers, but she didn’t screw up the scraps of paper, the notebook with the numbers in, the social media friends who were in that scene, so it made zero difference. If they want it they will get it.
I went through a really hard time trying to protect my children from this whilst dealing with the situation as well as working full time etc, and i kept everything to myself and thought I could cope, but that was the biggest mistake. Once I opened up and got support (from here, private counselling, family etc) it made the whole situation much more manageable and even though every day is still a fight I find my ability to cope with it is far enhanced.
There are support mechanisms for addicts out there, and they must go to their GP to get a referral, but they have to be wanting it 100% otherwise it doesn’t work. I would push for that because if your partner really wants help, its the quickest and easiest route to it.
Main thing, don’t blame yourself, don’t feel guilty for getting support and ensure your health and wellbeing are paramount. Don’t stop doing things you would have before, whether that be the gym, watching films, socialising, whatever it is, keep been you and realise you are strong enough to get through this.
Take care and good luck.